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Baby Robertson IV

Try, try, try, try again – Baby Robertson IV

Just 2 days before Christmas, we received the best Christmas present we possibly could.  We learned that we are pregnant for the fourth time!

Yet, there still lingers the concern and occasional fear that this baby will miscarry, just like each of our other babies.  It’s tough stuff… continuing to try despite so many losses.  We have been left without medical answers after our last baby left us at the end of the first trimester.  We only knew that Charis Ruth was indeed a female with all the medical stats looking like she should’ve lived to be a happy healthy full-term baby that we could hold in our arms.

How can we go on?  Frankly – I’m not completely sure.  In fact, this month we really had the least amount of intentional effort.  I’d given up on daily ovulation tests, traveled to a conference during my peak time, and returned home slightly ill.  Yet – here we are. We have asked for many prayers, have supported each baby with medical and natural options, and have done everything possible to bring our own little one into our arms.  Each time, we wonder, “God, how has this happened?  How can we prevent another loss?” and each time we remember that His love is with us through the grieving.

I’ve wondered if I should wait to tell my friends and family until we’ve passed all other points with our pregnancies.  Yet, I’ve learned that for us, support matters.  If we wait until we’re through the first trimester (passing up our last pregnancy), it really isn’t helpful for us until we reach this arbitrary point.

Some people want us to hold off telling others so as to spare them their own emotional responses to the loss. Yet, if they remain unaware that long, their only experience of our baby might be news of a passing.  Instead, they could have the experience that we can share for the life that is alive right now.  Is it selfish of us to say that our need for support outweighs others’ needs for avoiding potentially having their hopes dashed?

Mostly we opted to be fairly public in all ways except online until now (February 9, 2016)

If the calendar holds true to the actual dates, Baby Robertson will hopefully be here August 24th, 2016.  In the meantime, we will keep you posted.  We are excited, and even a little hopeful.  But, we are also reserved and will be until we hold our little one.

Our next ultrasound is scheduled for February 24th, and that should put us past our last milestone of 13weeks.

So, try… try… try… and even try again. Welcome Baby Robertson, IV.  We’re happy to meet you, and we hope to hold you in our arms soon.

Matt thinks the baby is starting to get crowded.  I reminded him, this is only the beginning.


Baby Robertson 9w4d

A Sigh of Relief

Sharing the big news about Baby Robertson’s anticipated arrival was a huge leap of faith.  Having endured 2 miscarriages where the babies stopped growing at 6.5 weeks, announcing a healthy dot at 7w1d was no small thing.  In my head, thoughts lingered that both babies actually grew beyond 6.5w and began to shrink.  What if that 7w1d baby did the same thing?

I left that appointment happy by choice.  It was a choice to believe that this baby would live to be strong and healthy.  It was a choice to announce the baby and request friends pray with us through the next few weeks.  It was a choice to not worry or doubt our future.

My doctor wasn’t able to attend that ultrasound. I left there to wait for her to follow-up with us and let us know when our next appointment would be.  She never did.  That was really frustrating.  I emailed my nurse and asked about the schedule.  She assumed I’d already been discharged back to my local doctors.  Nope.  I had no directions offered to me.  So, 1 more appointment with my fertility doc.

Then Friday, February 20th, I had my final appointment.  We saw this:

Never before have we seen more than a blinking dot.  I sent the video to Matt, and it took him a while to figure out what was happening, and then he thought the baby was huge.  Not quite, the ultrasound is just zoomed in quite close.  This happy waving kid is still about the size of a grape.

I feel at the moment that tiny arm waved, Baby was saying “Hi Mom.  I’m here.  You can relax now.”

And wow have I.  I haven’t had many symptoms for the past few weeks other than sheer exhaustion.  I hear that’s common in the first trimester, and can look forward to the next 3 weeks passing by.  Not only will the start of the 2nd trimester be great, but it will line up nicely with the start of Spring!  I need the warm sunlight and fresh air to bring in that new energy.

The countdown is on. 6.5 months to go before holding this kid in my arms.  Until then, we have successfully moved beyond it being a choice to have hope.

Baby Robertson

1 + 1 = 3


We are thrilled to announce a 7 week old baby.  Yes, this is a very early announcement.  But it is significant because we have passed our two previous losses and believe we are now out of the troublesome time.  Here’s a recap on our baby journey.

July 27 2013 – On our first anniversary I had my first positive pregnancy test

August 2013 – at an 8 week ultrasound we discovered the baby stopped developing at 6.5 weeks

September 3, 2013 – induced miscarriage (mini-labor)  via Cytotec after waiting 2 weeks since development ended. He was named Ezekiel (God strengthens).

March 2014 – first baby would’ve been born

May 11 2014 – Mother’s Day. I was entirely unprepared for how this day would hit me.

May 2014 – after many months of irregular schedules and no successful pregnancy yet, we are tested for preliminary fertility concerns

July 4  2014  – second positive pregnancy test

July 27 2014 – pregnant again during our anniversary. No adult beverages while out to supper. Noticing a trend here.

August 8 2014 – second baby shown to stop developing at 6.5 weeks (stopped growing a week prior to the ultrasound). Cytotec taken immediately.  The ultrasound technician notices that I might have a heart-shaped uterus.  This is a big breakthrough that was painful to discover. I know the drill and am numb while going through this violent process again.  He was named Jehoahaz (whom God holds fast or seized by God).

September 2014 – so many blood tests and special exams.  Diagnosed with a split-uterus.  I had an extra wall in there causing the babies to basically die on the vine.  The wall was a thin tissue that couldn’t sustain nutrients needed to live.

October 9 2014 – Hysteroscopic Transcervical Resection of Uterine Septum – wall removed. I hardly remember the surgery day but remember vaguely a long ride to Holy Cross Hospital just inside the DC beltway.  The worst of this was a cold that I got a few days before that came back with a vengeance in the week following surgery.  We went for ramen soup afterward before driving home.

October 29 2014 – after seeing urgent care about that nasty unrelenting cough, I was issued a stat xray script to ensure I didn’t have pneumonia.  Thankfully, I didn’t. More prescriptions to relieve my breathing.  Cough gone by November 2.

December 11 2014 – Hysterosalpingogram (HSG) at Chambersburg Hospital to ensure fallopian tubes were not blocked.  All looked good except that the local OB and radiologist interpreted the results as bicornuate uterus vs. split and cautioned about breach birth.  Bicornuate means the roof of the uterus looks collapsed and cannot be moved back into place.  It looks a lot like a Y.  Split uterus means there’s just a wall in there that had to be cut back as close as possible to the lining on the roof.  The xray/HSG isn’t as accurate in determining which is which compared to the best ultrasound machines that Shady Grove Fertility could see into me with.

December 18 2014 – another super high-def ultrasound in Frederick, MD to review how much of the septum remains.  4mm, which is a safe range (and not the 1cm+ thought by the local OB & radiologist at the HSG)

December 21 2014 – my daily ovulation test said today would be a good day to work on a baby.

December 22 2014 – doctor reviewed HSG results with us and ordered another ultrasound

December 28 2014 – The doctor reviewed my ultrasound and latest bloodwork.  Apparently I have high AMH (follicle count) and bilirubins (bile that is related to liver issues and causes jaundice). At 35, they usually see people with too low of an AMH.   She wanted me to start Metformin/Glucophage because my technical diagnosis means that I have PCOS (polycystic ovary syndrome).  But the high bilirubin count is weird and not advised for that prescription.   We do a retest of my blood the next day to see if results are lower.  Results do come back lower but still elevated.  Sent to family doctor.

January 9 2015 – Third positive pregnancy test. (Shrug)

January 13 2015 – Meet with general care physician’s nurse practitioner.  Review the full scope of medical history. She needs to research further before clearing me for Metformin.

January 21 2015 – Nurse practitioner returns results. High bilirubin levels are associated with high AMH. Cleared for prescription.

January 21 2015 – I tell my fertility specialist OB about  the pregnancy.  I didn’t want to see another healthy baby at less than 6.5 weeks on the ultrasound again.   Blood tests ordered.

January 23 2015 – bloodwork shows an HSG (the pregnancy hormone) of 7,000+.  The same day, a dear friend shares that she has just had a miscarriage. Happiness for our news and waves of mourning her loss toss my mind about for the day.  I know her pain far too well.

January 28 2015 – saw this baby on the screen.  Measured in at 6.5 weeks. This is a week off going by my last period and ovulation.  Doctor is hopeful and shares most PCOS patients are usually a bit later.  I am happy but reserved. Go back next week for another ultrasound.

February 4 2015 – 7 weeks 1 day  on ultrasound. Based upon my last period (Dec 6) I am nearly 10 days off the math to figure out due dates, but the baby measured in at 7 weeks 1 day and has a heartbeat of 126.  This is relieving, but still I feel I should be roughly 8.5 weeks. PCOS patients frequently are a week behind schedule.  I must choose to believe that this time the baby is still strong and all will be well.  It is a relief, but yet still more of a challenge than I anticipated.

March 11  & 30 2015 – Jehoahaz would’ve been born. Ezekiel would be turning 2.  I will still think on them and wait to meet them.

May 10 2015 – I will be more hopeful this Mother’s Day and starting to look pregnant.

August 1 2015 – Mark your calendars now for a baby shower.

September 22 2015 – Baby Robertson will be in my arms.

Miscarriage is rough.  It gets uglier each time it happens.  It has robbed me of the absolute delight that I had that first time.  It leaves me questioning if all really will be working out this time, or how much more we must endure.   My first two babies will remain important to me even after a successful delivery.

Yet – hope remains and arises.  It is a deliberate choice at this point to believe this baby will be well.  I will believe it more each day.

I have to choose not to put much emphasis on symptoms.  With my second pregnancy, I wanted to throw up just watching a food show about steak.  My clothes quickly became snug and I needed belly bands for my pants and a maternity bra by week 4!  This time… I have had very little symptoms.  I have craved Oreos once, which I satisfied with Newman’s Own brand made with mostly organic ingredients.  I have also preferred chicken in all forms, but have been disinterested entirely in a burger.  My first baby had no interest in salads, which for being late summer became a big challenge as that’s all that kept popping up in the fridge and garden.  Other than preferring my proteins in chicken and 3 nap attacks, I can’t say so far that I’ve felt very pregnant.  It would be comforting in a bizarre way if I felt pregnant more often, but then again… with our second baby that was deceptive.

We are thrilled and yet… keep praying that all goes well.  It’s already been a wild ride and the aftermath of thousands of dollars debt in miscarriage and fertility testing bills remains.  I am hopeful that the debt from losses will be resolved before the delivery bills start arriving.  I am thankful for those that helped us make a dent in that total and anticipate great relief when the last of it is paid.

Those that we’ve already told, thank you.  Thank you for being hopeful on our behalf when we couldn’t indulge ourselves yet in that emotion. Thank you for continuing to pray for our health.

I am so very thankful for Leah.  She has endured so many more losses than I have and has been the strength I needed to keep any sanity for the past 2 months.  I know that no matter what, I can go on. Take some time to hear what she and Jeff have been through. I jokingly shared that she has given me the example of living through worst-case scenarios time and again. While ultimately they found the happiest ending to this volume of their life, they have demonstrated such faith with no assurance that things would work out.



This baby will be born for such a time as this.